Having dreams for yourself and your life's great ....it inspires and motivates you towards what you deeply desire and who you might become.
But 'someday' dreams are different.
They're basically fantasies, where you imagine 'someday' the perfect person, situation, or thing's going to coming along and make EVERYTHING better.
It could be the perfect job, partner, body, finances, home, friend, or baby.
Whatever it is, you imagine it's going to fix ALL your problems and you'll be happy forever.
I spent years waiting for this kind of magical 'someday' myself and here's what I now know ...it's just a form of wishful thinking that's ultimately unhelpful.
❶ You Live for the Future
Your eyes are so fixed on some perfect future that your present life becomes something you've just got to get through and endure.
But you only ever live in the present moment ...never in your idealised future.
The risk: you fail to see all the blessings and possibilities in your life right now.
❷ You Stay Passive
Dreaming of a fairytale ending can keep you waiting (like a damsel-in-distress) for that perfect person, situation, or thing to come and save you.
In the meantime you take minimal responsibility and action to begin improving your life today.
The risk: you spend a lifetime waiting for a saviour who never comes.
❸ You Get Stuck in A Mental Trap
Your 'someday' dream can keep you stuck in an addictive mental cycle that looks something like this:
...when it seems this dream might come true you experience a high
...when this dream's (inevitably) thwarted you experience a painful low
...you then crave your perfect 'someday' all over again, as the FIX to all your struggles and woes.
The risk: you never break free of this addictive pattern and end-up wishing your life away.
❹ Nothing Really Changes
'Someday' you might get that dream job, partner, body, house etc only to realise that nothing’s really changed INSIDE of you. The struggle and woes are still there.
The risk: you find another 'someday' dream to focus on, and spend your life running away from yourself.
It's a bitter pill for us idealist and dreamers to swallow but here's the cold hard truth...
no one person, situation, or thing can transform your life into never-ending perfection.
Life has its highs and lows, struggles and blessings, light and shadows.
Your mission (if you choose to accept it) is to learn how to accept, work with, and grow from ALL of it.
If you long for more love, freedom, inspiration, and fulfilment you have to roll up your sleeves, dig deep, and start to bring in these desired changes YOURSELF.
It's how you discover who you are and what you're really made of.
Love and magic,
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