© 2019 Samantha Jenkins
Having dreams for yourself and your life is a good thing, as it helps to inspire and motivate you towards what you most desire.
But 'someday' dreams are different.
This is really just a form of wishful thinking, where you imagine that 'someday' the perfect person, situation, or thing is going to come along and make EVERYTHING better.
It could be the perfect job, ideal soul-mate, beautiful body, financial success, or gorgeous home.
Whatever it is, you're convinced it's going fix all your problems and FINALLY you'll be happy and fulfilled forevermore.
I spent years waiting for that magical 'someday' when my life would be transformed for the better and here's what I now know - this kind of wishful thinking is risky and tends to hinder, rather than help, you in life.
❶ You Live for the Future
You can have your eyes so firmly fixed on some imaginary future that your present life becomes little more than something you've got to get through and endure.
But you only ever live in the present moment - not in your idealised future.
The risk: you fail to see all the blessings, possibilities, and opportunities in your life right now.
❷ You Stay Passive
Your dream of a fairytale ending can keep you holding-out, like a damsel-in-distress, for that perfect person, situation, or thing to come along and save you.
In the meantime you take minimal responsibility, and no direct action, for improving your life today.
The risk: you spend a lifetime waiting for an imaginary saviour who comes.
❸ You Get Stuck in A Mental Trap
Your 'someday' dreams can keep you stuck in an addictive mental cycle that looks like this:
Whenever it seems like your dream's about to come true you experience a high.
When your 'someday' dream gets thwarted you experience a painful low.
You soon begin to crave your perfect 'someday' once again, as you think it's the ultimate fix to your struggles and suffering.
The risk: you continually cycle through this addictive loops, which then impacts your life in negative ways.
❹ Nothing Really Changes
'Someday' you might get that dream job, soul-mate etc. only to realise that nothing’s really changed INSIDE of you - the struggle, suffering, and pain is STILL there.
The risk: you find another 'someday' dream to focus on, and start the process all over again.
In reality, it's unlikely that one person, situation, or thing will ever transform your life into some perfect utopia.
Instead, YOU have to dig deep, roll up your sleeves, and work at bringing about those desired positive changes in your inner and outer life.
It's how you discover what you're made of.
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