© 2019 Samantha Jenkins
Your dreams can help to inspire, and motivate, towards your ideal future, which is a good thing.
But 'someday' dreams are different.
They're a type of wishful thinking, where 'someday' the perfect person, situation, or thing is going to come along and completely transform your life for the better.
Maybe, for you, it's that amazing job, ideal soul-mate, perfect body, financial success, beautiful baby, or gorgeous home.
Whatever it is, this 'someday' dream is going to be the answer to all that ails you. When the dream arrives, everything will magically get better, and you'll be forever happy and fulfilled.
I spent years waiting for my own special 'someday', and here’s what I know.
'Someday' dreams are risky, and can harm, rather than help, you in life. Here's why:
❶ You Live for the Future
You can have your eyes, and energy, so firmly fixed on a better horizon that your present life becomes little more than something you've got to get through.
But you only ever live in the present moment, not 'someday' in the future.
The risk: you fail to see all the blessings, and opportunities, in your life right now.
❷ You Stay Passive
The dream of a fairytale ending can make you hold-out, like a damsel-in-distress, for that perfect person, situation, or thing to come and save you.
In the meantime, you take minimal responsibility, or direct action, for improving your life today.
The risk: you spend a lifetime waiting for a saviour that never comes.
❸ You Get Stuck in A Mental Trap
Your 'someday' dreams can keep you stuck in an addictive mental trap.
There are exciting highs (when you taste the possibility of your dream coming true); painful lows (when your dream is thwarted); and a constant craving for the ultimate fix (where you'll be forever happy).
The risk: you cycle through drama, and pain, which impacts your life in negative ways.
❹ Nothing Really Changes
'Someday' you might get the dream job, soul-mate, opportunity, money, body, baby, or home only to realise that nothing’s really changed, inside of yourself.
Your 'someday' dream didn't fix all your troubles, and woes, like you'd imagined.
The risk: you find another 'someday' dream, and start the process all over again.
Here's the thing.
As hard as it can be to accept, it's highly unlikely that any person, situation, or thing is going to come along and transform your life into some perfect utopia.
Once you let go of your 'someday' fantasy, you're actually freed to take real responsibility for improving your life yourself.
So, if you're stuck, or struggling, don't waste any more of your precious time on this kind of wishful thinking.
Instead, dig deep, and choose to go after your dreams, one small step at a time.